Janine Bolon: Welcome to the Practical Mystic Show. I am your host, Janine Bolon. And this is the show that if you have a tendency to hear things or see things, you have extraordinary experiences yourself, you are able to see people who have already crossed over, who have already past or died, or you are just plain old-fashioned as we like to say empathic like you are able to feel the energy of a room. Many, many people have been in situations or families where it was very important for them to be able to walk into a room and feel the energy and see if they were entering a safe space or not. If for folks like you, this is the show that we present to you. And I am very fortunate that as we enter into this brand new year, yes, 2020 was a very long decade. We are so happy to be moving into 2021. And my guest today is Brenda Hardwick who happens to have many skill sets. But the three that I would like to emphasize is she is not only a practitioner of Angel Reiki, but she also has her own skill sets at being able to be a medium for guides, angelic, and otherwise. She also is an author and has written a book “Allowing the Magic Allowing the Miracles: A Blueprint for Ascension”. Thank you so much for being with us today, Brenda.
Brenda Hardwick: Well, thank you for having me Janine. I appreciate you.
Janine: Okay, so we are moving into 2021 and many people are more than happy to leave 2020 in the dust as we move into this new year. What are some things that you can give us recommendations since you are very prophetic in your ability to help people with their own personal blueprints? So, what is some just good old-fashioned general advice that you would like to give for those of us who are entering the new year?
Brenda: So, one of the things that I noticed through 2020 is that many people were awakened. Another words, they learned that they are not crazy. They are not seeing things. They are not hearing things. It is really there and that they are not making it up when they want to tell people things. Our angels were very, very active last year in protection and in getting us out of that year, you call a decade, it certainly was. For this year, I think the best advice I can give is be kind to yourself because this is a do-over. Okay? Our angels are all with us. They are all monitoring us. They are watching us and they are waiting for you to ask for their help because this whole year is going to be like shaking the dust off and crawling out of the hole that we had to crawl into for protection, and for ourselves, and for others around us, and shedding the fear that was generated on every front we face. We do not have to be afraid. We’ve made it. We got through this. We are still here. I was always saying, you know, tomorrow is not promised but if you wake up that means you got a whole new day.
Janine: I totally agree.
Brenda: Be kind to yourself. Listen when you hear things. When you see things, they are letting you know you need to pay attention. Stop. Look. If you do not get it, that is okay. Ask them when you are in a safe space because a lot of times that happens when you are crossing a street and traffic. Ask them what was I supposed to see? What was I supposed to get out of that? And they will give you your messages.
Janine: I think that is a brilliant way to start kicking off into 2021 is just acknowledging what you have been through.
Brenda: Yes.
Janine: Each of us have walked a very different journey because of our lives, because of the way we had to sequester in our own ways. And then some of us had to be on the front line. So just depended upon what was going on in your own personal life. So, one of the things I really wanted to tap into because you are such a fountain of wisdom and I have seen you work with many, many shamans and healers and one of the things I really like to talk to you about is helping people learn how to rest because we are in America. The United States is a society that, you know, it is all about time. Like we are very time conscious, very time-oriented. And sometimes we forget to give ourselves the gift of time, especially for those that are listening to this recording, especially for those who are used to being healers. They are the ones that are used to being on the front lines and they are caregivers. They are giving of themselves to everyone else and that maybe a community not necessarily just an elderly parent or young children. So being able to help ourselves rest, I would love your advice for all the different areas that you can think of where people are not learning or giving themselves an opportunity to rest.
Brenda: Okay, so I know that a lot of people feel guilty because there were so many things they could not, did not, should not, hate that word, do last year because we could not go places. We could not be with people. We could not see people. We could not be in the large groups that were used to being in. Many of us did not get the opportunity to go to the gatherings that we normally go to. Those are the places that as healers and as people who have awakened, those are the places we get fed. Those are the places that our energy gets filled back up. Our cup gets refilled. We have not really been able to do that. And while Zoom and Google chats and all of that stuff was a good alternative, it still does not fill the gap that was left empty by not being able to give hugs and not being able to be just in the presence of people.
Brenda: We are very community-oriented beings. Without that ability to be with other beings, we withdraw. And then now that the sun has come out, we can walk back on the road again. We could head back to Oz. We are nervous because it has been a long time since we have been around people. And you know, we have been taught to fear so much. So take your time. Begin small. Meet for coffee. Go to a small meet up and rather than one of the big large ones where you get 30 or 40 people. Go to one more of those 10 or 12 or 15. Meet with your friends in spaces that will hold you and that will allow you to talk, to catch up. Because even though we have been able to talk on the phone and by the computer, we have missed a lot. And taking care of yourself means that you have to be able to tore from your cup to help those that you help. And as healers, a lot of us, we just walk in the room and it makes a difference.
Brenda: Well, if your light is dimmed because you have given everything and have not done anything to fill it back up, you walk in the room and nobody notices. That is not good for you or them. Take the time too. If you need some solitude, do it. If you need to go to a hot spring and get some really hot water on your body, do it. If you need to go to a park and just sit next to a tree, do it. It does not have to be hours, 5 minutes, 10 minutes. Nothing has to be expensive and cost a lot of money. Do the things that make you go. Because we have filled our time with being at home and being under lockdown, with all kinds of little bitty things that now we will probably put most aside but then we have to spill that space.
Brenda: One of the things this pandemic taught us was that we were moving too fast trying to get too much done when we only have 24 hours in a day. And part of that day we have to eat, we have to sleep. You really do not want to give up sleep because then your body is going to get you later. No sleep, lower immune system. Yeah, so you need to sleep. And if you do not get enough at night, take a nap, 20 minutes. That is all you need. Set your alarm. We have lots of them, the phone, the watches. Do the things that make you go because that is one of the things we learned how to do because we had forgotten that.
Brenda: Taking the time to pay attention to you. Listen to your body. You know when you are not supposed to do something, your stomach goes eek. It does not mean no do not do it. It means your angels are letting you know. Well, do you really want to do that? Because you are going to need our help and you do not ask. Pay attention to the messages you get from your body. We have really learned how to hear what is going on because we have had to spend so much time with just me. Do not drop that. Keep hold of it because it is important. It is going to keep you going through the rest of the change, and the come down, and the calming that will happen during 2021.
Janine: Kind of like the downhill slide. You know, I really when we get ready to move into Spring is something that I definitely am very aware of because the natural energies of the planet, you know, things started being in bloom. Everything is wonderful again. People are going to start reaching out. And one of the things I have seen is then that is when burnout happens or people get overwhelmed with so much energy coming in. I know we are going to have quite a bit this time, especially as there are celebrations and joyful reunions and stuff like that as people reintegrate into societal matrices, whatever those happen to be.
Brenda: Yes.
Janine: One of the things that I know I have been talking to my clients a lot about has been breathing, not exercises, but just being aware of where your breath is. We have spent so much time in front of screens. I have noticed a lot of people have a lot of shallow breathing. And so I would love for you to talk about how renewing it can be to set a timer for 2 minutes and just focus on breathing.
Brenda: So, setting a timer for 2 minutes and focus on breathing, absolutely a wonderful idea. You focus on how deep your breath is into your nose and then focus on emptying all of your lungs space. All the way to your toes and people think to my toes well, my air only goes in my lungs. Trust me. If you picture it, it will be. Two minutes is a great target, but you are going to get people to say I do not have two minutes. Then for those I recommend 4-7-8 breathing. You breathe in to a count of four, you hold it for a count of seven, and you breathe out for a count of eight. So the breath in, hold it and out.
Janine: Thank you so much for that. Oh, I am sorry. I did not mean to interrupt you but I just wanted to say thank you for that little tip because one of the things about letting go of fear is we hold our breath, as you were pretty sure we are about ready to say, is that we hold our fear in and we hold it real fast. And I have just noticed with Zoom, we get so in an almost a trance with being on the thing, on the online. I wanted to also remind people that it is not just fear but sometimes we are holding energy or space for somebody online and that is another time where we need to breathe. But anyway back to you, what were you going to say before I so rudely interjected?
Brenda: So, you are right. Fear and other emotions because we learn to stuff when we are very young. And so when you do that regardless of what caused it, we are stuffing. So the breathing helps get that out. This 4-7-8 breathing, it was Dr. Andrew Weil, who is the one that came up with that. And you do it three times. It is great if you can do it with your eyes closed because you are focusing on your breathing, but I even use it when I am driving because I had road rage. I do not know that I still have that because through this time thing traffic has changed, but if you do it while you are driving, you do not want to close your eyes. That is a bad thing.
Janine: Just a little tip.
Brenda: Just a little tip. But what is 4-7-8 breathing and if you do that three times, what it does is it turns off your fight-or-flight. It turns off your stress response and your parasympathetic nervous system takes over. That is important because as we gear back up in this year 2021, as we gear backup a lot of us are going to be trying to hit the peak that we were at when all this happened. We do not need to go back there. We were still pretty productive, the majority of us. And if you were not, that is okay too. You need to be able to breathe. Most of us were walking around under stress all the time. And the only time we stopped was when we got sick. That is not normal. What is normal is to stop and take a break during the day, during the time you are doing something. When something stressful is happening, do the 4-7-8 breathing. It is going to let your mind think so that you can get out of whatever it is you are into that is causing you stress. And you can do it as many times a day as you need to. You can do it wherever you are.
Janine: I agree totally. One of the things that I have been hearing a lot and I am hopeful that the year 2021 will give us a lot of platforms where we will be able to share this is stress is something that we roll off the tongue very quickly, or under stress or de-stress, or what have you. And people accept it as well, that is just the way life is. I really spent a great deal of time over the last five years working to de-stress my life to the drama if you will to get the drama out and to stop with a lot of what is considered acceptable behaviors by certain members of my family, some of my community, that sort of thing. And I really just stepped out of that circle of no, this is not normal. I am really standing your ground and stress is not normal. The fact that we accept it as part of normal life means something is horribly skewed. So I love any advice that you give your own clients regarding how to de-stress and de-drama your world.
Brenda: Well, stress is typically connected to fear. And it can be fear of not getting done, fear of not doing, fear of being late. These little things that all put together build up to stress to the point where you are sweating, you are breathing very shallow, you are blinking very fast or not blinking at all. It depends on the person. What I have been recommending is the breathing because that is important because that is one of the first thing we stopped doing when we get stressed is we do not breathe. The other thing is pay attention to what is causing you stress. And this is a practice that I have been doing for myself, especially in this last year.
Brenda: Now I retired from regular work almost four years ago. Yay, when I am driving and I need to be somewhere and I am supposed to be somewhere, if I am late I have always had this saying well late is late. It does not mean if it is 1 minute, or 5 minutes, or 30 minutes. Late is late. So, what you do is you make a phone call or you pull over and send a text, I am running late. Or before you get started, you make that phone call or send a text. So that while you are driving the people that are being stupid in front of you, the traffic that is not where it stopped, where it is supposed to be. As you start to get angry, as you start to get stressed, as you start to sweat, you can say, “Well, wait a minute. There is nobody at the other end that is going to beat me. It is not going to cost me any money because I am late.” This is okay. It does not matter when I get there. I will get there.
Brenda: Two, ask your angels for help. We have free will. That is what the Creator gave us, free will. It means that if we do not ask for help, we do not get it. They just watch and that can be very entertaining because we do some really weird stuff when we are under stress and we are not thinking. But they would rather help even with the little stuff. It does not have to be big life-changing, you know, monumental decisions that we asked for. We can ask them, “What am I going to have for dinner tonight? What am I going to wear tomorrow? How am I going to do that?” You can ask for anything and they will come in and give you your answers. How do you know when you get your answers? When you know what it is you want to do. When you know what it is you want for dinner. When you know what it is you are going to say to somebody. You know you got your answer.
Brenda: Stress leads to other things. When your body is under stress all the time, it leads to physical illness. If you can reduce that, you cannot get rid of all of it because after all we are human. But if you can reduce it by a third and then by half, that is a whole lot better than where you were operating at before all of this happened last year. Because most of us were moving too fast running to do everything and by the time we got home in the evening if there was something we wanted to do to relax we were too tired to do anything more than sit in a chair. We have spent more hours on the computer, in front of a screen than any of us ever dreamed we would.
Brenda: So that means at least before you go to bed, an hour before, do not be in front of the computer screen. Do something else. Play some music. Play with the kids. Well, maybe they are in bed. Play with their toys. Do something that is going to slow your breathing down so you can take deeper breaths not speed it up. So watching a movie that has got chasings and murders and people turning into creatures and you know, whatever your genre that you like. Maybe that is not what you want to watch before you go to bed. For me, that is the time I write. Before I go to bed, that is when I write. Because writing, getting that stuff out of my head calms me down. Find what calms you down and do that. Have a cup of tea instead of a beer because alcohol enhances whatever level of stress you are at, and so do most other drugs. So, do the things that make your body feel good. Do the things that will calm you down, and remember to breathe.
Janine: I think a lot of people are state to me frequently, you know, my challenge is remembering, and I understand, right? I get that. I get how I can be going in my head a hundred miles an hour in there. And so this is why I highly recommend telephones and setting alarms on your phone, and I even have alarms on my computer where they will strike a gong. All the whole purpose of that particular sound is just to remind me to breathe. So it is one of those things that when it’s hits start, it is funny because I am so focused on whatever I am doing, I did not even realize 30 to 45 minutes had gone by. I actually do monitor myself and see wow, yeah, I am shallow breathing again because when I get super focused I move into a state where I almost do not breathe at all. So, thank you very much for helping us with that.
Janine: This has been the Practical Mystic Show. And I wanted to remind you that Brenda Hardwick is available online. She can do readings across the telephone as well as on Zoom. She has two wonderful meetup groups. One is the Angel Power Hour and the other is Angel and Other Guides. So how can somebody easily get a hold of you Brenda if they want to know more about your work?
Brenda: So, you can get hold of me in a couple of ways. You can go to the meetups. My Meetup is called “The Light of Nature”, that is also the name of my website. So you can get to me either way. There is on the meetup you can send me a message. On the webpage, you can send me an email or a message. You can book appointments there. All of that. My email address is [email protected]. And that is solely for people wanting to get hold of me. I do not use that email address for any other kind of business, just for those who want to get to me. If you need to call my number is 7204413762. Now, if you call me I will warn you. If I am in session or I cannot answer, leave a message, I will call you back as soon as I get the opportunity. That is my business line. And so I will get messages. I will get notified that you called. It even sends me an email so it is kind of made sure that I know somebody called you.
Brenda: The meetups, the Angels and Other Guides, is always the second Friday of the month, except for November and December this year because of holidays, and travels, and what have you just seem to get into the way. And the other one is the Angel Power Hour, that is the fourth Monday of a month. And again when we get to November and December, it depends on where the holidays fall is to whether those hold.
Janine: I think most people are used to that, you know, toward the end of the year people get very engaged and a lot of us have to kind of take a step back from our normal meetups. But anyhow, thank you so much Brenda. We appreciate your authorship. We appreciate the mediumship. And we also very much appreciate the healing that you offer so many in your community.
Brenda: Thank you.
Janine: And this has been Janine Bolon with the Practical Mystic Show. Remember if you hear things, see things, and experience things that other people do not, this is the place for you. We have a shaman, a psychic, or a medium that can help you develop your gifts. We look forward to seeing you in the next episode.
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